Yup, it’s true. I’m dating a guy who doesn’t love books.
But that’s actually okay! Sure, there are definitely times when I wish that we could sit on the couch together, curled up under a fluffy blanket, and read together while drinking cups of hot cocoa and snuggling. But I’ve actually gotten quite used to the fact that we don’t share a love of books.
I’m mostly okay with it because it’s not like Brent is uneducated or doesn’t like to read in general, it’s just that he’s not really a novel kinda guy. He spends a lot of time reading news stories and stuff like that instead, while I’m sitting there with The One in my hands. I’m pretty sure that I’m the one who should be embarrassed in that situation 😉
I like that, because of this, we’re constantly sharing different things with each other. I’ll tell him about the latest book I’m reading and he’ll blow my mind with some space facts. It’s nice that we have different interests! We’re always learning things from the other person.
And the best part is…he doesn’t take up any of my bookshelf space! I seriously don’t think I would be able to deal if I had to share half of my bookshelves with my significant other. That’s precious space, people!! I’ve already got books stacked every which way to try to make them all fit. I don’t need somebody else putting their books on my shelves. No, thanks.
It’s also cool because, while he’s definitely not really a book person, he does read occasionally. Like, for example, he’s obsessed with the A Song of Ice and Fire series. And so am I! So we still get to fangirl with each other about a few special books, but the rest of the time we’re doing our own thing.
Since reading is something I’m really passionate about, it’s almost kind of nice that I’m not dating somebody with that same exact passion. Occasionally I wish we could bond over it more, but most of the time I’m glad that I get to have my “own thing.” There’s plenty of things that we share love over — like television shows and animals — but reading? That’s all mine.
But he’s still interested enough that he’s not rolling his eyes and tapping his watch when I want to gush about my new favorite series. At least most of the time, he’s not 😉 It’s the perfect balance!
Have you ever dated a guy who didn’t like to read? Did you like it or not like it? In a perfect world, would your partner be a book lover just like you?